Mice Insights

Washington’s clinical mental health counsellor, Dan Bates, considers some moves that can help us improve the way we communicate with our partners:

1. 🗣️ Explicitly State Your Needs: Avoid expecting your partner to mind-read. Clearly express your needs and desires, respecting your partner’s perspective. This reduces misunderstandings and sets realistic expectations.
2. ⏱️ Consider Timing: Timing is crucial when expressing feelings, especially negative or critical ones. Be mindful of the situation, your partner’s mood, and other influencing factors. Choosing the right moment can make a significant difference in how your message is received.
3. 🤗 Take the Initiative: Show investment and thoughtfulness by initiating conversations, affection, or shared activities. This proactive approach demonstrates commitment and can positively impact your relationship.
4. 🧘🏻‍♀️ State Your Needs Clearly: When emotions are high, communicate your needs simply and directly. Avoid getting bogged down in accusations. Clearly stating what you need helps your partner understand and respond appropriately.
5. 🕊️ Make Simple Requests: Instead of criticizing, make clear requests. For instance, instead of saying, “You never ask about my day,” try, “I would appreciate it if you asked me how my day was.” This approach reduces defensiveness and fosters constructive dialogue.